From Jennifer and Stefan

I am at a loss for words, I offer my sympathy and as many have said do not hesitate to ask for help. take care of yourself and daughter now you need eachother.

My god I offer my greatest sympathy I could not imagine to be in that situation.
Hope it works out stay strong for your girl.

Very sorry to hear this about a member's family (or anyone). There is little anyone can say that doesn't come out sounding like a platitude because most of us haven't been there, I do know that greiving is a process, but it is best accomplished with the support of an understanding extended family, faith community, or greving counsellors (a family doctor is a possible first stop) - or http://www.bereavementontarionetwork.ca/about.htm . The burden is lightened when it is shared by people who care, and by those that can shoulder some of your immediate concerns for you. The fact that you are sharing your story here is a good sign that you're already reaching out for that compassion, wanting to share your pain and anger.

Important to take care of yourself in order to keep it all together for your daughter (and your future), and important for your daughter that she have extra supports too. We can easily let things like debt, jobloss, family troubles or worse get us down, but there are no such things as dead ends, just solutions that haven't been found yet.  It's sad that at times people end up facing their worst fears, and sometimes allow their pride to cloud available paths, but there are ways out, with time and dignity, and organizations and people that help create those paths.

Take care.

Thanks everyone.

I don't know what to do with myself. I've been doing laundry, cleaning this cleaning that........sitting here staring at the wall yet at absolutely nothing at the same time, since I put my daughter to bed, for I don't even know how long.

I feel like things are only going to get worse, and I hate my wife for what she did more than I've ever hated anything. There was no warning, no note......nothing, I've torn the entire house apart looking. She even drove my brother-inlaw to school early this morning before doing it.
I wish I could tell her how I feel.....

Wow Ken Im speechless.  I wish I could say something that would actually help you but I dont know  where to begin.  I guess I would reiterate what others have said about counselling as it will help both you and your daughter.  Try and be there for your daughter, kids cant understand the reality of the situation and will look to you for answers and strength.  I cant even imagine what questions she must have.  
Since im in the area Im available to help if I can.  You have my number.  
  

Quoted from ken_cinder

I don't know what to do with myself.

No one can tell you what to do or what you should be doing. At some point you may want to discuss how you feel with others but it's up for you to decide if and when that will occur. The main thing is to know if and when that time comes there are people out there that are willing to listen.

I am so very sorry to here this Ken. You are in our thoughts.

Ken, my wife and I wish you the best.. stay strong, and you'll pull through.  

I really don't know what to say......   I am sorry for your loss.

I would suggest that you seek councelling for your personal loss, as well as how to cope with your Daughter and her loss.  Even the strongest of us will be tramatized by such a tragic event!  The is no pride in suffering!

I wish you and your family (i.e. your parents, her parents etc,) a quick recovery and a new start to your lives.  All the best, my thoughts are with you.

So sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your tragic loss