I found papers.......bad news papers, under her nightstand. She was cheating on me, after I fought tooth and nail to get her back home with us (She suffered a Post Partum episode where she tried this same thing). I'm crushed, she's lied to me for over 2 years now when I've asked her......
I still have to see her doctor on Tuesday about the medical issues of late.
I don't get it, I did everything for her, she had everything she thought she'd never have. I fought to keep her with us when the law wanted her out, and this is what I get in return?
Hello Ken,
May I offer similar advice as others have? I believe that your matters at hand are best suited for councelling or for direct discussion with a close family member or very close friend. You are obviously very distraught over the whole thing (who wouldn't???? and you probably need to get some direct moral support.
I do understand that finding such evidence is quite disturbing, especially at this moment. It is exactly why I believe it is best to keep it all in a private environment. Venting is probably the worst thing you can do right now. Keep in mind that you have a 4-year-old daughter that is looking up to you right now for strength and understanding.
Family is key here. In any time of loss, it is best to rely on them. Posting on various forums will get you some sympathy... and believe me, we all do sympathise, but right now, you need emotional support, which a forum cannot give you.
You have every single member's sympathy here, but there is very little else we can do from a keyboard. Focus on family Ken. And when things get a bit better, we will all be here for you.
And if you do decide to do a small service, let us know. I am sure a few close members would attend.
And for all who wish to send a card to Ken, please PM me and I will give you his address. this way, as he stated, the bots won't get hold of it.
I'm sorry guys, I'm acting out. What I previously posted........there's far more than anyone could fathom to it. Let me just say that after putting more puzzle pieces together, she didn't really cheat on me. I'll leave it at that, my wife was ill. I think you can put it together yourself.
I'm really taking a break tonight, I've slept 6 hours in 3 days and eaten twice all while go-go-go like the roadrunner. I'm out, I'm letting go....
I appreciate the suggestions of counseling, but trust me. I feel better today, I can deal. Maybe later if I need to.
I don't get it, I did everything for her, she had everything she thought she'd never have. I fought to keep her with us when the law wanted her out, and this is what I get in return?
I was once in a serious relationship (...engaged in fact...), to a girl who "perhaps" had remotely similar emotional issues to your wife.
I did everything to make this girl happy, but she wasn't happy with herself, and figured a "nice guy" like me deserved better (...never saw that one coming...)
We tried counseling, but she was already emotionally gone, so we called off the wedding and went our separate ways....
That was many many many years ago (15+) and I later realized that no matter how hard you try to make someone happy, it's gotta come from inside themselves first.
You probably did far more than would be expected of a husband, but your wife apparently had issues that went beyond what you could do to make her happy.
Rest assured that you are not deserving of such fate and are in no way responsible for it. Re-focus all that energy on your daughter now and I'm hopeful things will turn around for you...
And no matter what you may find out about your wife, none of that matters now. Both of you brought the miracle of life into this world and your daughter will need you more than ever.
And no matter what you may find out about your wife, none of that matters now. Both of you brought the miracle of life into this world and your daughter will need you more than ever.
It does matter, after fighting tooth and nail for her, she turns around into another mans arms? (I found out I was wrong, she did......)
Ken, it's healthier for you to not judge on everything you see right now. The need to know "why" is strong and will be strong for a while but as you can see, it's easy to go from one extreme to another and grief will blind you and lead to jump to conclusions.
I've no idea what happened but at the end of the day, your wife wasn't evil. Maybe she was sick, maybe she made mistakes and go so caught up in them she lost sight of reality. I don't know, but right now, this extreme stuff you're showing isn't healthy dude. Give it time, facts will sort themselves out. Right now, only one focus, your daughter and both your health.
I appreciate the suggestions of counseling, but trust me. I feel better today, I can deal. Maybe later if I need to.
What you really need in this time of crisis is to find a weekly group activity (preferably with strangers that know nothing of your situation.) that way you get out of the house ---even if but for an hour or two as mental diversion.
As other's have wisely pointed out, the sooner you get off the net and seek out at least a support group, the sooner you heal and ensure your daughter adjusts. There's no shame in letting others that have already experienced such trauma guide you through.
Just a thought, as I know it's a few months out and I don't know how many people are planning on going.
But we could have a little side Tournament at the Niagara Falls Show in Aug there should be more then enough games and as good a reason as any for the group to get together and hang out.
Just a thought, as I know it's a few months out and I don't know how many people are planning on going.
But we could have a little side Tournament at the Niagara Falls Show in Aug there should be more then enough games and as good a reason as any for the group to get together and hang out.
Sparky
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and you probably need to get some direct moral support. 
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